An Attitude of Gratitude

Okay, so. I’ve been doing the whole “30 Days of Thankful” thing on FB. Today, Day 12, I said I’m thankful for my two previous marriages.

Yes, I said TWO. Moving on…

I am Thankful for my two previous marriages because they showed me what I DIDN’T want in a marriage. What I wasn’t willing to compromise. The pieces of myself I wasn’t willing to give away in the name of domestic bliss.

I walked away from these marriages because I wasn’t happy. I KNEW there was better. Marriage shouldn’t have been so much WORK. Shouldn’t have made me feel like I was suffocating every minute of every day.

Marriage shouldn’t have made me miserable. So I left. The decision to leave wasn’t easy. Okay, well, the decision to leave my SECOND marriage wasn’t easy. Leaving husband #1 was a joy. Leaving #2 was a different story. There were kids, hurt feelings, and tears.

I left anyway. I left because staying felt like it would have been the end of me.

So I am thankful. I am thankful that those relationships taught me something about myself. I’m thankful that they taught me something about the Wife I wanted to be and the Husband I wanted to have.

I think I’ve managed nicely.


  1. Kathy says:

    Reading your post reminds me how thankful I am that I got out of my first abusive marriage alive and met my husband. I went on to have two beautiful kids that I am so thankful for. Your post made me smile. It is always good to count your blessings and find the good in everything.


    1. ginbaby says:

      I TRY to find the good & the humor in most things. It ain’t always easy.
      Glad I made you smile.

  2. Grammy says:

    Girl, your marriage story sounds just like mine. It’s like we’re twins or something….except I’m like a decade or two older than you. But still….3rd time’s the charm Baby!

    1. ginbaby says:

      Yep. Third time is DEFINITELY the charm!!

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